I recently read a novella I really liked. It was a classic story of two guys meeting and falling in love after some confusion about whether the other guy was gay or not since one was closeted and the other was out and proud. Of course, at one point in the story, it came down to them having sex. And that’s where it fell to pieces for me. When did it become okay to let your contemporary characters have unsafe sex?
I get that it becomes boring to write about “the talk”, especially in shorter stories. I also understand you feel you don’t want to preach, but aren’t you forgetting the fact you have to lead by example?
I have a lot of friends in the gay community. I’ve lost friends to HIV and I have friends who caught it after a one-night stand.
I also listen to (especially) the young guys being very casual about safe sex and even more casual about STD’s as if anything you can catch from a lover is dealt with by a visit to the doctor and a shot of antibiotics.
I can’t bring myself to write about the first time two guys have sex and not include a condom. It may be the fact I’m not twenty years old anymore and I lived through the eighties and nineties, when (mostly) gay men dropped like flies, but how hard is it to slip a condom into a sex scene?
I firmly believe we have to set an example by casually showing safe sex practices and I’m not alone.
Chi Chi LaRue says it so much better than I do. –>