“What does being a member of the GLBT community mean to you?”
Most people who’ve never met me wouldn’t say I qualified to be part of the LGBT community. Why not? I’m a woman who likes men. Technically speaking I should qualify as straight.
People who’ve met me automatically assume I’m not straight, though. The reason for this is “the duck test” (If it looks like a duck, swims like a duck, and quacks like a duck, then it probably is a duck).
I’m a middle-aged, big-boned woman who’s never married, doesn’t have kids, has no discernible partner. I wear my hair really short, and I like to dress in shirts, jeans and Nike sneakers. With a few exceptions, my friends are gay men and yes, I write gay romance. I couldn’t possibly be straight, right?
Well, I’m not exactly arrow straight…
I like my men like me, somewhere in the middle of the binary gender gap. Sadly for me, most of those men are gay (and therefore not interested in someone who doesn’t have the right appendages) and the other two can’t get over the fact I don’t fall for women. Perception can be a real deal breaker…
So do I go around telling people their perception of me is totally off the mark? Not if I can help it. Most of the time I don’t care what they think of me. I’m sure my boss is convinced I’m a lesbian, but as long as he doesn’t turn bigot on me, I don’t care. Same with my co-workers. When I’m called on it, I won’t lie and will tell people I like men, not women. I have a very dear (gay) friend who keeps trying to hook me up with his lesbian friends. I’ve told him a few times I’m not interested, but I guess I need to be more vocal about it. He keeps telling me I haven’t met the right woman yet. I told him I’d take him over any lesbian he could introduce me too. I think that shocked him!
Honestly, going around telling people I’m straight feels futile and unnecessary. I don’t lie about it, but I don’t shout about it either. I shouldn’t have to.
I am who I am.
But I still feel more accepted by the LGBTQ community than by the straight community, simply because of the perception people have of me.
So for me, the LGBTQ community means acceptance. I feel much more accepted by them, regardless of what I am, than I do from the “straight” community, who do judge me for what they perceive me to be.
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